Healing Words: An Author’s Search For Trauma Recovery Through Writing

Brandi Kennedy talks about how writing and mindfulness has helped her recover from chronic abuse on bettysbattleground.com

A guest writer series about the ways we heal-on bettysbattleground.comHey readers, I apologize for missing my Wednesday post this week, but I’d like to call your attention to the article I was busy working on instead.

When I was pregnant and on methadone, I was caught in the Front Range Flood. Well, not caught in it per se, I was just outside of it, but my clinic closed and I couldn’t get to the one that was designated to courtesy dose us. You can read more about it in the article, but it is truly horrifying how unprepared many methadone facilities are for ensuring continuity of care. Unprepared is not even the right word; there are actually plenty of protocols in place, as I learned while researching this piece, but many programs and hospitals choose to turn patients away. It’s unfair, and unconscionable. Imagine going through the worst disaster of your life, and also being in intense opiate withdrawal? You can read it here.

Let’s also remember that while all of this has been going on, massive flooding has been destroying parts of Southeast Asia. More than 1,000 people have died, far higher than the death toll from Harvey.They deserve our care and attention too.

I’m glad that my blog is equipped to have outbound links open in separate windows, because I also don’t want you to miss this guest post from Author Brandi Kennedy. She’s a fiction writer and a poet besides a blogger, and it shows in the beauty of her narration, but the subject is deeply troubling. Despite my own traumatic experiences, I never cease to be shocked by the capacity for pain and cruelty this world holds. I’m glad the assignment I’m writing this weekend focuses on human kindness instead, but for now..let’s read Brandi’s story of recovery through writing and mindfulness.

Author Brandi KennedyRead about Brandi Kennedy's healing through writing on bettysbattleground.com was a survivor before she knew she was a warrior. Through her love of reading, she found temporary escape from the abuse that was an ever-present part of her childhood; through writing, she’s found healing and renewed life. These days, Brandi is a romance novelist and mental health and lifestyle blogger who spends her moments writing her way toward her dreams. Through self-expression, the courage to share honestly, and the desire to weave words into the very magic she once used as escape, Brandi is learning to embrace life as an Undaunted Woman – and hoping to welcome others along on the ride. Read her full bio here.

 

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Labor Day Ranting: A Compendium Of Bullshit

It’s Labor Day, so I’m gonna take a break from the structured blog posts I’ve been writing and just rant a little. Which I really need because I don’t really have any other legit medium to rant anymore. I don’t have friends who live near me, or who have much time for me. My husband doesn’t care about hearing me rant, and half the time it’s him I want to rant about. And my therapist ditched me for a month–which is seriously messed up. I need a new therapist.

Anyway, if you have always wanted to hear the rambling ranting of a freelance writer and mama with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, it’s your lucky day! Oh but before I get to that, Simply-Linked came back online. That means Off-Fridays is back! I’m working on getting those libraries updated so this can’t happen again, but for now, let’s build this addiction one. It was interrupted when the service went out, so there’s no links besides my own. Will you add your posts about addiction? Whatever that word means to you! Click here to get to it.

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6 Common Compliments That Undermine Mentally Ill Women

6 Common Compliments You should never say to a mentally ill woman-on bettysbattleground.com

2017 is a very cool time to be living when it comes to feminism. There is still a ton of work to be done, but it’s definitely awesome that everyone who reads anything knows about feminism. Even people whose reading material is limited to internet clickbait (hey-no judgement here!) know the basics of feminism. We’ve got huge superstars on our side; from Jennifer Lawrence to Will Smith, society is decrying sexism. Multi-million dollar companies are sponsoring media campaigns aimed at closing the wage gap, promoting positive self-image, and erasing gender role expectations.

With all of these amazing advancements we’re seeing, you’d think something as basic as compliments would be safe from sexism. Compliments exist to make people feel good, right? So many people are aware of feminism these days that there’s really no reason why compliments shouldn’t make us feel good. Yet the most well-intentioned, educated people are still saying some really oblivious things. And it’s not only guys doing it. These sexist compliments are so common, even women say some of them. I’ve been guilty of a few.

On top of everything, a lot of these super common sexist compliments also feed right into mental illness stigma. The front lines of the mental illness battle are still very hairy. People constantly misrepresent the mentally ill, or use disorders as insults. Ever called someone a psycho, or just plain ol’ crazy? That’s what I’m talking about! Even health care workers perpetuate mental illness stigma by deprioritizing complaints from patients with known mental health issues. For those women living with a mental illness or illnesses, like me, dealing with both sexism and mental illness stigma on a daily basis can be downright exhausting. Can we please just keep compliments out of it?

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