Book PLAY of the Weeks 7/3-7/16/2017: Cabaret

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Sacrelige! My “book of the weeks” is not a book.

I couldn’t resist myself this week. I have been singing Cabaret showtunes ever since I saw Roundabout Theatre’s National Tour last weekend. Everything from ‘Willkommen,’ to ‘Mein Herr,’ to ‘Don’t Tell Mama’…I even re-wrote the lyrics to ‘Two Ladies’ so I could sing it around my kiddos. Now Anabelle joins in…”Deedlideelidee two babies! Deedlideelidee two babies! Deedlideelidee and I’m the only mom here!” Is that perverse? Re-constructing a song about a menage a trois to sing with my toddlers?

I don’t care! I love Cabaret. Not just any productions of Cabaret: It is THIS production of Cabaret that makes my dark little soul sing. Originally directed by Sam Mendes, the most recent Broadway revival of Cabaret, which is now touring the United states, Read about Roundabout Theatre Company's Cabaret on bettysbattleground.comperfectly captures the darkness, the decadence, the desperation, the sexiness of pre-WWII Berlin-and humanity. If there’s a stop near you left on the tour, you must see it. See it even if you don’t like the movie, which I will admit, I don’t much like myself. Keep reading to find out why this production is an absolute must-see that beats all the rest.

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Tales From the Other Side: “When It Happens To Your Child”

When It Happens To Your Child

Tales from the Other Side: A guest post series on

I have written a lot on my blog about the trauma I have experienced. I have written about the ways trauma has affected my day to day life,  and how it haunts my interpersonal relationships. I have written about the reasons why I stayed with my abuser despite the pain and embarrassment he caused me, and last week I finally wrote about why I left: my son.

The National Child Traumatic Stress Network writes that

Young children who experience trauma are at particular risk because their rapidly developing brains are very vulnerable. Early childhood trauma has been associated with reduced size of the brain cortex. This area is responsible for many complex functions including memory, attention, perceptual awareness, thinking, language, and consciousness. These changes may affect IQ and the ability to regulate emotions, and the child may become more fearful and may not feel as safe or as protected.

This terrifies me because it makes me question whether it is my fault that my son cannot tell me his feelings, thoughts, fears, joys. Is it my fault he still wear diapers at age 9? Is it my fault that he is autistic, because I let his biological father be a part of his life, even for just those short few months?

I can’t undo what my son witnessed and experienced as an infant; all I can do is my very best to keep him safe now. Likewise, any parent can only do her best to keep her child safe. We cannot always protect our children from trauma. One of the scariest moments in a parent’s life is when she discoverers something traumatic has happened to her child; whether at school, in an accident, while with someone once trusted, or elsewhere; discovering your child has been traumatized is earthshattering.

It’s a nightmare question which not many of us do want to even ponder: “What if it happens to my child?” But the question needs to be asked, because no matter how protective you are, your child may still experience trauma, and if he does, the best way you can help is to be prepared. Betty’s Battleground is grateful to have the opportunity to publish this piece by marriage and family therapist Katherine “Katie Jo” Glaves about how to detect and help childhood trauma.

Tales From the Other Side: "When It Happens To Your Child" bettysbattleground.comKatherine “Katie Jo” Glaves is joining us today to write a special guest post about children who’ve experienced trauma. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist at Mindful Therapy Group in Seattle, who specializes in working with children. She also operates out of her own private practice: Cedars Creative Therapy

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