Child Abuse Comes In Many Forms, And Is Never Okay

Learn about the less understood--but still harmful--forms of child abuse--on bettysbattleground.com

Though not yet an official diagnosis according to the American Psychiatric Association, complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) is being informally recognized as a more severe form of PTSD caused by prolonged trauma. Often, that trauma begins in childhood. Trauma that takes place during a person’s formative years is incredibly damaging. It establishes a sense of normalcy around abuse, creating a harmful pattern that can be extremely difficult to break from–or even recognize. The earlier the trauma begins, the more difficult it becomes for the victim to understand her experience as abnormal.

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15 Outdoor Activities To Promote Mental Healthiness In Kids + Parents

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I don’t know about where you live, but I feel like the Pacific Northwest had to be dragged kicking and screaming into nice weather this year. But it finally arrived! Spring showers are coming to a close and Summer is (just about) here. In the Great PNW, Spring and Summer are really something to be celebrated. We spend six months under a ceaseless skyscape of rainthick clouds, so when the flowers start to bloom…and then fruit…when the sun shines and the sky blushes blue, it’s time to go outside and soak it up.

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But even if you live somewhere that gets year round sunshine, Summer is a great time to bond with your kiddos. School’s out. Kids come home, and the great outdoors are calling. Of course, there is always the temptation of screens, and I’m not saying never use them. This blog wouldn’t exist without a screen! Screens have their uses, but too much time in front of one, and too little time moving around outdoors can actually increase anxiety and depression, even if staying in with a movie feels like the best antidote to social anxiety or some other type of episode.

Now, I’m not trying to suggest that mental illness can be cured through exercise and sunshine. I sure wish a good run in the sun could erase my PTSD; unfortunately mental illness involves neurological changes which take a lot of intentional work to manage, including physical, mental, and emotional.

That being said, studies confirm what I have personally experienced: even 10-15 minutes Kids need to play outdoors for good mental health-and so do parents! on bettysbattleground.comof exercise each day can help balance neurochemistry by promoting the production of endorphins and serotonin. Sunshine is also loaded with Vitamin D, and helps to reduce symptoms of Seasonal Affective Disorder.  So, while your mental illness can’t be cured by a walk in the sun, that walk can, in fact, ameliorate some of your symptoms.

Joe from Nature Rated was kind enough to write a post for Betty’s Battleground about the benefits of exercise and outdoor play, along with an infographic detailing some outdoor activities to do with your kiddos. A couple of these activities require the privilege of a home with a backyard; something I, and many parents with mental illnesses don’t have; most of them, however, can be executed or adapted to fit anyone on even the tightest budgets. So I’m really excited to share this guest post with you, while I wrap up my daughter’s birthday celebrations and get back to “real life” (and blog posts written by moi). I hope you and your family enjoy these activities!

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The S/O Challenge: Ten Things I LOVE About You

Strengthen your relationship by joining the S/O Challenge on www.bettysbattleground.com

I don’t usually post on Sundays.

But I’m making a special exception today.

My husband has been feeling down lately. Overworked, exhausted, and missing his family because he works evenings now and doesn’t get to see us much.

I have been feeling down too. Upset by the loss of a friend who callously mismanaged (yet another) creative project of mine. Triggered by a detailed interview with Family Court Services….if you don’t have PTSD you don’t understand how bad that is…but…it’s bad.

And as anyone who is married knows, when both partners are suffering emotionally, the relationships suffers too.

We have been bouncing between bickering, giving each other the silent treatment, and kissing half-heartedly just try try to keep things going. On top of everything, my mother in law is visiting. She’s been helping us…a LOT…with cleaning our apartment. I’m super grateful, BUT it does mean we haven’t had much time alone to talk or rekindle our relationship or anything.

But we’re married. We live together. We have kids together. We really can’t afford to be super dysfunctional. So I have decided to challenge myself, and I invite you to join along with me. It’s simple, here’s how you do it: Save this page. Pin it, bookmark it; whatever your favorite method of saving pages is, do it. Now go about your life. Next time you and your S/O get in a fight, or even the next time you just get annoyed with him (or her, or them), open up this page! Re-read my ten for inspiration, then grab my badge and create your own post. Seriously. You’re in this for the long haul, right? What better to help get over an annoyance with your significant other than to remind yourself ten whole reasons WHY you started on this crazy journey with them in the first place. *deep breath* Here goes.

Ten Things I Love About My Husband…

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