Healing Words: How I Recovered From Bullying

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A guest writer series about the ways we heal-on bettysbattleground.comAs Winter break comes to a close and those who are in school return to classes and cliques, I think it’s important to discuss the effects of an insidious phenomenon: bullying. We are raised to believe bullying is an unavoidable part of growing up. Bullies have always existed and always will exist; problem is, that is a self-created reality. We create bullies, and we choose to be bullies. It’s possible to choose otherwise.

In kids’ movies it’s easy to identify the bully as a villain. Afterall, that’s how kids view bullies. As adults, however, we recognize that a bully is a kid in pain; a kid who is probably emulating behavior he sees at home. It’s on us to stop acting racist, xenophobic, homophobic, sexist, petty, and just plain mean. Until we do, the children and teens in our lives will pick up those behaviors and bring them to school with them. This essay by a young woman named Jasminder outlines in painful clarity the lifelong effects bullying can have on a person–but it also demonstrates the resilience and power that survivors can use to heal.

If you know a bully, are a bully, or have ever been bullied, this story is for you.

Learn how to heal from bullying on bettysbattleground.comJasminder is a self-declared philosopher, crafter, college student, and full-time dream-chaser. When not tripping down the rabbit hole, she can be found sipping herbal tea, dancing around her bedroom, and finding new ways to love her life.

 

 

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Healing Words: Undoing The Legacy Of Abuse

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Jack’s Story: Undoing The Legacy Of Abuse

Hello! Welcome to the day after you drank too much. How do you feel?

Seriously though, I hope you had a happy 4th of July. Whether you’re an American or not, yesterday was July 4th and I hope it was a nice day for you.  If you are an American, and not a person who has made a commitment to sobriety, there is a good chance you are curled up nursing a hangover as you read this.

And that’s okay. To each his own! I have been there many, many times. So has our author, a recovering alcoholic. Jack is (almost) my first male guest writer. I say almost because Joe from Nature Rated wrote a lovely post for us earlier this year about outdoor activities to do with the kids. I mention this fact anyway, however, because Jack is the first male writer to contribute a personal narrative.

The truth is, I believe that given everything that is going on in my country right now, the only way to be patriotic is through dissent. So I didn’t celebrate American freedom in the usual way yesterday, but I do think freedom is worth celebrating, wherever and however it is found. Jack’s story is absolutely harrowing, but at age 23, this young man is stronger than many middle aged people I have known. The viciousness Jack has experienced is sometimes hard to believe. We don’t like to think of humans as capable of such needless cruelty. But I have experienced this magnitude of abuse myself. People are capable of enormous cruelty.

Yet people are also capable of great bravery and strength. Jack had the strength to ask and accept help, to own his mistakes and culpability in his problems, and to move forward on his mission to help others struggling to overcome similar issues. Jack’s story is one of freedom; freedom from pain, from self-harm, from negative people, and from the cycle of abuse. This week, I’m celebrating Jack’s story.

Read Jack's story on bettysbattleground.com Jack Travis is currently working on becoming a motivational speaker and an author; his goal is to help transform the lives of others using what he knows from personal experiences. Although he’s in a good place now, he struggled most of his life with mental illnesses such as PTSD, depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder. His road to salvation has been very dark, bumpy, and has consisted of  many necessary detours, but he is now on a journey to happiness and success, and he invites you join him. You may start by following him on: Twitter, Instagram, Facebook &YouTube

Find out how one man is choosing to walk away from a lifetime of abuse on bettysbattleground.com

 

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