Tales From The Other Side: #MeToo Is For Women

Find out why a male sexual assault survivor doesn't think men should be involved in #metoo

Tales from the Other Side: A guest post series on www.bettysbattleground.comToday’s post is a different type of “Tales From the Other Side” post than usual, because it’s written from the perspective of a sexual assault survivor about his experiences as a sexual assault survivor. This series usually focuses on those who “live, love, and work with the mentally ill.” But I publishing this post under the series because it comes from a male sexual assault survivor who says #metoo is for women.

I wrote my own post last year about how #metoo is for men and not for men, and if you read the comments, it garnered some controversy. Today’s post is considerably shorter than the guest posts I typically publish (1000 word minimum for anyone interested) but I accepted it as is because it provides an important and thorough perspective that honestly doesn’t need those extra words. I watched Chris on his journey to this conclusion–he put a lot of thought into crafting these words. I hope you’ll put as much thought into reading them.

I’m especially excited to post this today of all days because it is my daughter’s fourth birthday. It’s also the day when my slumlord gave us notice of a rental raise despite several unresolved housing code violations in our building, and when I confronted the managed of my building to assert my rights he got in my face, yelled at me to “stop bitching,” then pointed over a five foot balcony–that I highly doubt meet safety code, and told me to “get the fuck out of here;” mind you, within centimeters of my body. My apartment building manager. And the police did nothing. If the little girls of this world are going to grow up into women who feel safe in their bodies and homes, then we need more men like Chris Dantes to step up, recognize the problem, and speak out–so that men like David Neyhart (building owner), Chester (manager who intimidated me), and all the Weinsteins of the world learn that it is they, not us, who need to shut up and get the fuck out of here. Happy birthday Anabelle. Mama is loud for you honey, no matter what man hates it, and she’s not going to stop. I love you.

Read why male sexual assault survivor Chris Dantes believes #metoo should be reserved for women only on bettysbattleground.comChris Dantes is a full-time writer who has tutored high school and college students for eleven years. His work focuses on social issues, including sexual abuse and mental health awareness through essays, research articles, and fiction. He earned a Bachelor of Arts degree in English РCreative Writing from the University of South Florida.Dantes and his wife co-founded Bum Dogs Media in 2018, which focuses on spreading sexual abuse and mental health awareness through writing, instructional videos, podcasts, and speaking appearances. You can follow him on Twitter @realchrisdantes and on Facebook. Also, you can support him by subscribing to his Patreon account at patreon.com/fearnoscar

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Eight Everyday Experiences I Am SICK Of Having As A Female

What Females Are Sick Of-on www.bettysbattleground.com

This female had a garbage weekend.

If you have been following my blog at all, you know I’ve actually had a pretty terrible month.

I don’t want to go into ALL of it, but for those of you who have been following: My daughter was in the hospital for pneumonia. I had to take her there right after seeing The Ex in court to have my protection order renewed. The renewal was granted, but I still had to see and hear the idiot. Just because every time I see him in court he says or submits something which ultimately helps my case, does not mean the encounters aren’t triggering. And, after this annoying and triggering court encounter, I took my daughter to the doctor and she ended up being admitted to the hospital for three days with pneumonia. She is out and better now; every one is better¬†now, except for coughs that bring up thick gobs of yellow phlegm, but I am exhausted. And I have a lot of annoyance built up in me.

I had a sorta humorous post planned for today, and although once upon a time humorous did mean phlegmatic, I just don’t have it in me. Sorry…next week…

What I do have in me are complaints. But I’m going to try to at least make my complaints useful.

Here is a list of everyday experiences I am just plain SICK of dealing with as a female; things you all just need to stop doing RIGHT NOW.

Before some guy out there in the vast wide web decides he needs to say, “Hey guys deal with stuff too…” yeah that’s true. But I’m not a guy, so you write that list. I am a female. This is my list.

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