Labor Day Ranting: A Compendium Of Bullshit

It’s Labor Day, so I’m gonna take a break from the structured blog posts I’ve been writing and just rant a little. Which I really need because I don’t really have any other legit medium to rant anymore. I don’t have friends who live near me, or who have much time for me. My husband doesn’t care about hearing me rant, and half the time it’s him I want to rant about. And my therapist ditched me for a month–which is seriously messed up. I need a new therapist.

Anyway, if you have always wanted to hear the rambling ranting of a freelance writer and mama with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, it’s your lucky day! Oh but before I get to that, Simply-Linked came back online. That means Off-Fridays is back! I’m working on getting those libraries updated so this can’t happen again, but for now, let’s build this addiction one. It was interrupted when the service went out, so there’s no links besides my own. Will you add your posts about addiction? Whatever that word means to you! Click here to get to it.

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Tales From The Other Side: Is PTSD Contagious?

Tales from the Other Side: A guest post series on www.bettysbattleground.com

Today’s guest post covers a topic that is not discussed often, especially within the PTSD community. Is PTSD contagious? Of course, in the common usage of the word “contagious,” it is not. PTSD is not a virus or a bacteria. You can’t get it from touching someone or breathing the same air as a trauma survivor. However, “witnessed PTSD” is a real phenomenon, one to which children are especially prone, but which anyone from any demographic can acquire.

This story is different even from that. Patricia Eden, or “PTSD Wifey,” as she prefers to be known, is a blogger and PTSD advocate who acquired PTSD after her husband experienced a direct trauma. Vicarious PTSD typically occurs when someone witnesses or hears about a highly disturbing trauma which someone close to them experienced. This wife claims, however, that she earned her diagnosis after a year of experiencing her husband’s PTSD symptoms. When I first heard this, I had a lot of questions. So I invited her to write this guest post.

The answer isn’t one that is easy for me to face. Earlier this week I explored the ways in which my mental health affects my family. My husband and I both have PTSD, and like anybody with PTSD, we both get triggered at times. My kids can share our air, our food, even our drinks without worry. But can they share our space when one of us gets triggered? When I read this essay, it made me realize all the more that we need more supports-not less-for parents with mental health conditions. We don’t deserve to have our children taken from us, but we do need reliefs and supports for our safety as well as our family’s.

PTSD Wifey discusses vicarious PTSD and its potential for contagion on bettysbattleground.comPatricia Eden is the voice behind PTSDWifey. She is a mother of two beautiful daughters and a wife to an outstanding husband who is recovering from Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and she has Vicarious PTSD. As the author of a unique blog written from the supportive partner’s perspective; PTSDWifey hopes to be an inspiration and a beacon of light for others affected by PTSD. She is working on registering as a non-profit to provide previously unavailable resources to families and individuals suffering from non-combat related PTSD & CPTSD. Connect with her on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and learn more about our invisible disease and find support, remission, and recovery! For more articles like this visit www.ptsdwifey.com  Don’t forget to say hello while you are there!

A guest post about vicarious PTSD

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The S/O Challenge: Ten Things I LOVE About You

Strengthen your relationship by joining the S/O Challenge on www.bettysbattleground.com

I don’t usually post on Sundays.

But I’m making a special exception today.

My husband has been feeling down lately. Overworked, exhausted, and missing his family because he works evenings now and doesn’t get to see us much.

I have been feeling down too. Upset by the loss of a friend who callously mismanaged (yet another) creative project of mine. Triggered by a detailed interview with Family Court Services….if you don’t have PTSD you don’t understand how bad that is…but…it’s bad.

And as anyone who is married knows, when both partners are suffering emotionally, the relationships suffers too.

We have been bouncing between bickering, giving each other the silent treatment, and kissing half-heartedly just try try to keep things going. On top of everything, my mother in law is visiting. She’s been helping us…a LOT…with cleaning our apartment. I’m super grateful, BUT it does mean we haven’t had much time alone to talk or rekindle our relationship or anything.

But we’re married. We live together. We have kids together. We really can’t afford to be super dysfunctional. So I have decided to challenge myself, and I invite you to join along with me. It’s simple, here’s how you do it: Save this page. Pin it, bookmark it; whatever your favorite method of saving pages is, do it. Now go about your life. Next time you and your S/O get in a fight, or even the next time you just get annoyed with him (or her, or them), open up this page! Re-read my ten for inspiration, then grab my badge and create your own post. Seriously. You’re in this for the long haul, right? What better to help get over an annoyance with your significant other than to remind yourself ten whole reasons WHY you started on this crazy journey with them in the first place. *deep breath* Here goes.

Ten Things I Love About My Husband…

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