#MeToo Is For Men, And Also Not For Men–And That’s OK

Why #MeToo isn't about men but men can still participate-on bettysbattleground.com

How many #metoo tweets and posts have you seen lately? A lot, I’m guessing. A damn, devastating lot. Which was the point, of course. The campaign was started to demonstrate just how many women suffer sexual violence. As more and more women come out of the woodwork, we are seeing that so, so many women have experience sexual assault or harassment. Like all of us, pretty much.

How many #metoo tweets and posts have you seen from men? The campaign, which began in response to the Harvey Weinstein sexual assault scandal in Hollywood, was created to highlight the male-dominant culture that allows “everyday sexual violence” to be a thing in the lives on women. It’s become an opportunity for people previously silent about having experienced sexual assault and harassment to open up about it and relieve themselves of the burden of secrecy. That includes men, right?

The issue of whether or not men should be part of the #metoo conversation has become hotly contested. In some ways it has usurped the initial conversation this was intended to start, which by all accounts ain’t cool. But since I talk a lot about sexual assault and recovery on this blog, I don’t feel guilty taking a moment to examine the issue. Should men be included in #metoo?

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11 Ridiculous Activities I Learned I Can Do While Breastfeeding

What have you learned to multitasking? Let me know on bettysbattleground.com

I don’t do straight up parenting posts too often, but hey, I am a mom, right? It’s not all gloom and doom and PTSD. Let’s talk straight up motherhood for once, and have some fun while at it, hmm? And what more encapsulates motherhood–at least this current phase of motherhood for me–than breastfeeding?

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Is There Anybody Out There? Comment If You Can Hear Me

Leave a comment and tell me about you if you read bettysbattleground.com!

If you’re reading this, will you leave me a comment?

Every once in a while I get a message from a reader telling me that my blog resonates with her, that she appreciates my honesty, and that she appreciates that I’m giving voice to experiences and opinions that are often silenced. It feels really great. For someone who spends a lot of time alone–or rather, a lot of time in the company of people too young to articulate complex thoughts–it feels good to know that even though I often feel lonely and unheard, people actually do read what I write on occasion.

Sometimes those conversations continue and that person ends up writing a guest post, or we chat on Twitter* every once in a while, but often it ends with my “thank you.” I don’t get a chance to know these people who read my work.

Other times, I don’t get blog comments or these kinds of messages for days. Even the angry 12-step rebuttals tell me someone is reading, but when nothing comes in at all, the silence of my life begins to crowd around me and stuff up my head like a bad cold. So, I’ve decided to do a sort of “sound check!” Find out if anyone’s actually reading this, and by doing that, learn a thing or two about you (if you do, in fact, exist). I’m publishing a mini-survey to get you know you. Will you leave me a comment and tell me your answers–as many as you feel comfortable providing? Let me get to know you, too!

*about Twitter: Today, October 13th, I am staying off Twitter as part of a protest related to the Weinstein sexual harassment scandal (my computer was autosigned in when I opened it this morning but I didn’t check anything, I swear…and Crowdfire might autopost for me…it might a stupid version of participation, but I’m going to do my best because…fuck Trump) Rose McGowan made some statements about her experiences with the Hollywood creeper and had her account temporarily closed in response. Twitter released a statement assuring everyone that it was simply because she tweeted a personal phone number. Maybe that’s true, or maybe they were looking for an excuse to silence a woman speaking vehemently against a powerful Hollywood mogul. Who knows? What we do know is that Trump has been sending out tweets that may set off a nuclear war, and his account remains untouched–apparently, according to Twitter, because of his “newsworthiness.” Um. Wow. There won’t be any news when we’re all dead. Anyway, that is why I am participating. Any excuse to silence a woman speaking out about sexual violence, but when the idiot president violates the rules by insulting others and making threats of violence, it’s “too newsworthy” to stop. So you won’t see me on Twitter today, October 13 2017.¬†

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